My prevailing experience is not to identify with thoughts, or commentary in my head or to identify with emotion that is passing through my body and nervous system. Such an approach allows me to remain attentive to this present moment now. It’s a magical and powerful way of living.
However, for the benefit of writing Boundless: A wayward entrepreneur's search for peace, I consciously chose to identify with some memories – situations where I was engrossed in remorse about my behaviour, or moments of despair, or intense loving moments.
Once I woke at 3 am, engrossed in a memory of isolation and helplessness that I felt when, eight years earlier, I realised I was incapable of initiating a loving relationship. Instead of gently letting go of the memory, I decided to engage in it and write down the physical and emotional experience I was re-living. The words were an accurate description of what was happening to me eight years earlier. (Scientific studies have shown that if we engage in memories we emotionally relive the event exactly as if we are experiencing it for the first time – whether it is a fond memory or a horror show.)
This approach of engaging in the memories, I believe, has enhanced the ability of Boundless to evoke emotion.